“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.  When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” ~Proverbs 31: 25-26.

-She works willingly with her hands, and it symbolizes her hands being extended and pointing upward with prayer.

-She is confident in the God to whom she prays, the effective woman knows that she has great eternal significance.

-She welcomes her future with The Lord with open arms.  She is strong and fearless.

-When she talks, it is with wisdom that comes from God.  She instructs others with kindness.

-Yes, you are enough.  It may not seem like it right now, but in God’s eyes you are.

I’m the one to talk, because no matter what I do or did, I never seemed to feel like I was ever enough for anything or anyone.  I was always wanting to do more than I could actually do.  This is my problem to deal with and I’m trying to work on it, believe me I am.  It has not been an easy task by any stretch of the imagination, just trust me on that.  I still have a lot to learn, and I’m far from completion, that’s for sure.  I don’t really want to talk about my ex fiancé on here, but I will for a brief moment.  Whenever I was with him, he made me feel like I was never going to be enough for him, because he was never happy with himself and because he wasn’t happy with himself, then how could I even be happy with him? I’m not happy with myself either, but I am working on that too.

Believe me when I say this, “You need to have a better understanding of yourself, before you can jump in and do anything else.”  Once you have a better understanding of yourself, that is when things will start to fall in place for you.  It will not always be easy, but it will be worth it all in the end.  Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t love, accept, and respect you for you.  You deserve better, we all do actually.  You deserve the world, but first, you need to love you for you, before anything else can take place.  You deserve a man that will treat you like the queen that you are, and if he doesn’t, then it’s time for you to let him go, and be willing to wait for the right man or the right woman that God specifically chose for you.  Once you meet and get to know that person, you will finally understand why it didn’t work out with anybody else.  He or she is worth the wait, because God knows you better than you know yourself and He is the perfect one you can trust your life with, because He’s the only one who knows your future and what’s the best for you.

He loves you and He will never leave you or forsake you either.  He is always with you and will go before you so that He can make your paths straight and then fill your darkness with His wonderful light.  I don’t regret the experience that I had with my ex though, because it was a learning experience to teach me everything that I don’t want in a future husband, just so that I can find the right one instead.  So, if he’s reading this, which I doubt that he is, but anyway, thank you for teaching me how to be a better person and a better future wife for my better future husband.  I know that it’s not fun being single at this time, but there’s a good reason for it, and once you figure out the reason why, then you’ll be thankful for it.  While you are still single, enjoy it, because once you find the right person, your life will get busy quickly, and once you get busy, you’ll  look back on this time and you’ll be thankful for it, and in a way, you’ll wish you had it back, because there was no stress and no worries, you could just do whatever you wanted, and not have to worry about what others thought or being tied down to something or someone who hurt you, left you with nothing, and wasn’t worth your time.

What I’m trying to say here is this: “whatever season that you are going through right now, please enjoy it and take it as a learning experience and a stepping stone to something or someone better, because you’ll never get this time back again and you’ll be absolutely amazed at how drastically and quickly it can change.  In the famous words of Brene’ Brown, “Let go of who and or what you think that your supposed to be, and fully embrace who you actually are.”  Life is very precious, so enjoy it as much as possible, because in the blink of an eye it could change and be gone.  You’ll either be blessed by this change, or you’ll be scarred for life because of this change.  Either way, the choice is yours, so make it a good one please.  It is a very difficult learning process, but worth it in the end.  This is just one of many stories taking place in my life, so I hope you enjoy it!  Also, on a side note, please be kind to others because neither one of us can possibly know what private battles other people face on a daily basis.  Some are better than others and some can be worse than others too.  Either way, please be kind to others because that is the way that The Lord has always wanted it.  We are all equal in God’s eyes, so please don’t change it.  Thank you and God Bless!

 

~With Love and In Christ,

Emily